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Overcome, Renew, Restore with Koko, The Professional Soul Mate!


Accept the Challenge to Change!

The only person you should be better (1)Change does not happen in places of complacency, comfort, or convenience. While these are our safe havens, they don’t always propel us to reach greater heights.

Yes, it’s easy to stay in a place where we know what to expect, either good or bad, but when we do so, we limit ourselves to greater opportunities.

Did you know that God already has your blessings on standby? The question is: How much do you want something? Why do you want it? What will you do to get it?

Are you ready for something different? Are you willing to change? Do you want to change, but not sure how? What is God asking you to change? What fears are you grappling with?

10 Ways to Accept the Challenge to Change:

1. Interact with individuals/groups on a different level of maturity

2. Attend church

3. Go back to school

4. Selectively share your ideas for a new project or business with someone

5. Be more selective of the TV shows you watch and the music you listen to

6. Find a mentor or coach

7. Find and take classes on being self-aware

8. Change your eating/exercise habits

9. Create a daily schedule

10. Say NO!

These are just a few things that come to mind that are a challenge (to some, not all), but if done, would bring about a new and positive change in one’s life.

~Koko, The Professional Soul Mate~

Better Than the “Yesterday” You!

The only person you should be betterMany times we become caught up in what the next person is doing out of fear of whether we’re doing enough or simply wanting more or something different. But what really happens with comparing ourselves to others is ‘mental chaos’. We end up doing things that are not God-anointed.

It’s important to remember that we each have a separate purpose for a specific type of people. The people you’re reaching out to may not be the same people that I’m to reach out to. Even if they are in the same industry, they have different needs.

So when you awake each morning, worry less about what this person is doing and instead ask God “What would you have me to do today?”
“Who should I bless today?”  “What can I do different today?”

~Koko, The Professional Soul Mate~

Five Minute Friday: “Choose”

I’ve been reading WisdomfromaFather’s Friday posts for a while now and thought the idea of Five minute writings was neat. So here I am joining hundreds of others in Five Minute Fridays started by Lisa Jo-Baker. The key is to write for five minutes based on Lisa-Jo’s prompt “No extreme editing; no worrying about perfect grammar, font, or punctuation. Unscripted. Unedited. Real.”

[I’m afraid] All of my thoughts on this one word will not fit in a five minute time frame. But here goes… “Choose”

Choose- a gift, a privilege not to be taken lightly.

I choose to win as opposed to fail, but even if I fail at something, I choose to try again until I win or at least accept the fact that it may not be a strength of mine, but of someone else’s, therefore, I can choose to work with or collaborate with someone else so that we can reach a particular goal together because it’s not about me, but the greater good of others.

I choose to see the good in others because there are enough people who already see the bad in them. Yes, this includes the incarcerated (the thieves, the murderers, the rapists, the cons), yes even these.

I choose good over bad – I wish this was the case all the time…


The After Five: …but it’s not. And that’s being honest. Sometimes I choose temporary pleasures over eternal rewards and ‘just’ deal with the consequences. 

And that’s the thing about making choices – dealing with the consequences. If you dish it, can you take it? It takes some longer than others but I “choose” to believe that at some point in all of our lives, we realize that some of our trials and tribulations were not a result of someone else’s choice, but of our own. And with that revelation or realization, we step into a new level of maturity that teaches us humility and selflessness, to put others before ourselves. Is it not true that some of our trials are due to bad choices because we were only looking out for self? Daily, I learn to choose not because of what I will gain, but because of what can be gained to bless someone else. If I choose a job, am I choosing it because of the pay and benefits, or am I thinking about how I can truly assist someone else in achieving a goal that will ultimately bless many others?

This word is actually hitting home this week because I had to ‘check’ myself on the choices I make regarding the jobs I take. I think it’s fair to say that selfishness often comes from desperation or as some people would call a “do-what-I-gotta-do” mindset. Having said and felt this many times myself, I’m not convinced that “doing-what-I-gotta-do” is always the best choice!

With the crowd or alone, however you stand, CHOOSE to stand on what you know and believe to be right in your spiritual eyes.

source With the crowd or alone, however you stand, CHOOSE to stand on what you know and believe to be right in your “spiritual” eyes.

Blessings to all who take time to read this. We live and learn to Be Better and therefore Do Better!

Lots of love ~ Koko