Five Minute Friday: “Begin!”

Wow… I see a lot of things going on. I’ve been M.I.A. for the past few weeks or a month trying to restructure some things with my business. And now I see this is the last FMF hosting week for Lisa-Jo.

Well, with a beginning comes an end to something. For the last month, I’ve been focusing on restructuring my website, creating new services, and package plans. A lot of work and it definitely takes a lot of focus. But I can appreciate the new phase I’m in and moving forward with a grateful attitude.

I believe new beginnings come after a reflection process. When you reach a certain milestone in life, you take the time to stop, refocus, reflect on what was good, reflect on what was not so good, and basically reorganize or restructure. New beginnings symbolize growth, moving to the next level or phase, and this can be in regards to one’s personal, spiritual or professional life.

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The After Five: 

New beginnings can also be a bit scary as one enters new territory with no direction other than to go forward. And with fear comes those pesky little thoughts: “How will I do?” “Will I do better than before?” “Will this relationship last longer than the last?” “Will this degree finally allow me to move up professionally?”

Along with other positive thinking strategies, here’s my take on moving forward with confidence. The same way you overcame the obstacles, uncertainties, and mistakes in the last phase, so it will be in the next phase because you are a Conqueror. Even on the days you wanted to quit, and even if you did quit, somewhere along the way you decided to get back up again. Somewhere along the way you decided to tell “rejection” it would not win and that you would push forward no matter what it took.

Your new beginning today is the light that you sought after before. Rejoice in your new beginning. Be thankful for your new beginning, and enjoy the new process as you work towards your next new beginning.


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I wish you well in your own new beginnings of life.

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Five Minute Friday: “Lost”

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So here we go: “Lost”

There was a time in my life when I was lost to the world, lost to myself, lost to the need for attention and affection. There was a time when I was lost to sexual immorality, not truly realizing my worth or even who I was in God.

On a new road of transformation, after being tired of being sick and tired, after being tired of temporary gratifications, that really weren’t gratifying at all, I began to seek solace from the words of Bishop T. D. Jakes (“Naked and Ashamed”) and Joyce Meyers (“Battlefield of the Mind”)….

Once lost in a darkness of filth and just – there’s no other way to describe it, I came to realize my true worth, I came to realize, and BELIEVE that I was a Daughter of the Most High who saw me in a different light and it was my time to see it as well.

Once I found that compass to lead the way, I found myself on a new path, a new belief, a new challenge.

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The After Five: That new challenge was to practice abstinence, not just because it was the right thing to do, the safe thing to do, the spiritual thing to do…. Here’s my belief… or philosophy I should say. It takes more than a belief to stay on the right path. Behind that belief should be some type of conviction, some type of purpose or reason that is STRONG enough to remind you when temptation comes why it’s not worth it. I’ve found that, and had to teach myself this as well, you can believe something all day, but without a reason behind it, your reason, (not someone else’s), you are easier to fall prey to your strongholds.

A couple of things that help me to abstain, my reasons:

1. When I meet Mr. Right, I don’t want to be asked that “question” for which my answer would be yesterday, last week, last month or whatever.

2. Until I meet my physical husband, in a way God is my husband and if I’m a believer of fidelity, then this is my test.

3. Not willing to settle anymore for temporary fixes

4. I think about myself as an example to others, what I teach or advise others (acting on that which I ‘preach’)

For me, these reasons are my Strong Convictions.  Yours might be different.

There are many ways to be lost to the world: sex, drugs, possessions… We all know this, we’ve experienced most of them, whether directly or indirectly and have seen the hurt, the pain that is caused, but what many people don’t have is a support system, a reason why, or a way out…

As a coach, one of my desires is to reach those who are Lost, to shed new light, to encourage, empower, and guide. If that person is you and you are feeling bound, wanting to break free, feel free to contact me here (no catch or further obligation).

Another thing I found is with confession, comes freedom, comes PEACE!

Have a Blessed and Safe Weekend All!

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Five Minute Friday: “Messenger”

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So here we go: “Messenger”

Automatically, I think how can I send a message through the work I do. Now, that I’m in a place where I can do what I’m most passionate about, I’m not quite sure how to deliver the message. I’m still seeking guidance on that, because one thing I’ve learned and wish to avoid, and in ways, I’ve grown into a sense of maturity, where it’s not necessary to speak all the time. Sometimes, it’s more necessary to listen, allow what you hear to settle in, and then speak with humility, with grace, and comfort.
I’ve found that many people like to speak, deliver a message for their own reasons, for their own accolades, so to speak. But when we allow ourselves to be humble, we will find that sometimes the message we speak is unnecessary and may often times cause more harm than intended.

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The After Five: So, here’s what I believe. We are all “Messengers” with a word to deliver to someone. It can be verbal or non-verbal, a few words, many words, or a simple hug. But in order to deliver those messages, we have to be humble and receptive of His instructions. There will be times when you feel the need to say something and you do, (it doesn’t always end in the negative), but later on wiser words come to you and you think “Oh, I wish I had said that”.

Sometimes a friend is in need and you just have that urge to say something to fill an awkward void of silence… but silence is okay. Another thing I’m learning is that one should speak with a “Purpose”, without expectation, except that God’s will be done once it is spoken.

Again, we are all “Messengers” and there are particular recipients for the message you have been assigned to deliver. I mentioned that I have a message, but not sure how to deliver, but as I’ve been writing, I realize, the how is not the issue, it’s the “who”… I have a message for certain individuals. You have a message for certain individuals. Everyone is not meant to receive “your” message. Some, in fact, are not ready for your message.

Every day, people are blogging/writing/painting with messages that reach someone, even unknowingly. So whatever your message in life, your purpose, as God so leads you, share it. Even if you can’t lay eyes on the recipient, still share. The amazing thing is that your message impacts people in unexpected ways.

Your life experiences are not in vain. Let Your Voice be heard whether through art, writing, or speaking. You have a voice. You have a message. And there’s room for all of us to be Messengers!!!

Friday Blessings to All!!!

Five Minute Friday: “Close”

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So here we go: “Close”

Well, it’s been on my mind and I was going to wait until next month, but “close” is a good start. I’m reminded of the closeness I had with my father. It wasn’t about the toys he bought when I was younger, it wasn’t the birthday gifts or anything like that. Honestly, he didn’t know my birthday. And it wasn’t that we had such amazing conversations.

But the closeness I felt with my dad came from him being him in the moments we shared…

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The After Five: Hm, yeah, I think I’ll have to wait on this one. So instead, I’ll just share this… Being close to someone doesn’t come from the material things shared, but from the time spent with someone. It comes from the little things they do to let you know they care. It comes from the conversations of few or many words, but more importantly, it comes from a special bond, a special connection that allows you to sit for hours, even without words and know that you are special or you are loved. Being close to someone brings a sense of comfort. You don’t have to wear the day-to-day masks that we often adorn at work or basically around people we’re not close to. Closeness brings a sense of vulnerability because you can simply be you. There’s no judgment. There’s no scolding, but there is truth.

Whoever it is that you feel a closeness to, continue to let them know. Continue to make good memories.

As it is Memorial Weekend, for those who’ve lost the person(s) you were close to, I hope and pray you have good memories to cherish. And if you still have that special someone (mom, dad, friend, sister, brother, etc.) just remember it’s the little things that count!!!

Blessings to All!!!

Five Minute Friday: “Grateful”

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So here we go: “Grateful”

As usual, I will be a bit transparent here as are others through their writings. I wish I could say that I “Always” have a grateful spirit, but of course I’d be lying. Some days things happy [happen] and I’m like “Really?” I often have to scold myself when the thought “Why me?” begins to surface by simply saying, “Why not?”

I try to lead a very discreet life with hopes to avoid any drama, etc., etc., but “ding-ding”, laughing at myself… as if that really stops things from happening in life. Uh, yeah – good try.

No, actually, as much as I’d like my life to be quiet and drama free (and I mean that in the sense that I didn’t have to worry about how I was going to pay something this month, how many clients will I gain this month, will I have enough time for this or that), I realize that it is often in the chaos of life or the difficult times that I realize how blessed I am, but even more so…

The After Five: I realize that it is the not so good times that opens my eyes to what really matters in life. Sometimes losing things is not so bad, not only because it makes room for something else, but it brings into perspective that maybe it was something that wasn’t needed in the first place. That’s when I become grateful for those revelations, that certain things in life I thought I needed or felt I could not do without, I really didn’t. I’m thankful that it reminds me that my focus should be on God and not the things of this world as he will surely supply all my needs. I’m grateful that God loves me enough to teach me even simple lessons. I’m grateful that as much as he gives, he takes away, not to punish me or make me feel like a failure, but to make room for me to grow in another area. I’m most grateful that with each new day, it’s an opportunity to do better than the day before or try it all over again with hopes of getting closer to where God needs me to be.

Blessings to All!!!

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Five Minute Friday: “Mess”

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So here we go: “Mess”

So I had to chuckle to myself when I saw this word. MESS!!! Well, here’s a bit of transparency. I’m intimidated by mess. I don’t function well in mess. I shut down in Mess.

I spend hours on Meticulous and Perfectionism. And funny how even after double checking not once but twice (and sometimes more), I still manage to find something wrong.

Over the years I’ve read and taken on the perspective that mess often signifies chaos or confusion. So I think it’s fair to say that with that perspective, I’ve become a bit too concerned about what others would think if I was no [not] so put together, or on point with certain things.

Well…

 

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The After Five: I will be the FIRST and I’m certain not the only one or the last to tell you that BLAH!!!! Meticulous and Perfectionism will literally drive you crazy!!! I’m sure there’s someone out there who will agree. 🙂 This hit me the most when I was an instructor for the first time and felt the need to read and do as much as possible to make sure students were getting what I considered a valued education. So if that meant staying up till 3 or 4 in the morning with 2 hours of sleep before starting the day, then hey, “It’s not about me, it’s all about them.” Um, while that may be true in certain circumstances, any obsession with something often overwhelms the true passion, joy, and purpose of it. And while I tried to “fake it” on the front line, behind closed doors, yes, I was a Mess!!! It was not until I lost my job, with way too much time on my hand, (but GREATLY needed), that I started to accept the fact that I don’t have to be perfect, I don’t have to know everything and I don’t have to be “All that” to people in order to satisfy unrealistic expectations.

To go back a bit, before I lost my job, I was working almost 14 hour days, 4 days a week, on minimal hours of sleep and not to mention the job issues itself, and it became so overwhelming (with noticeable health issues), that I literally said to God I just couldn’t do it anymore. (another topic for another day, I was hoping that that door closing meant another one would readily open, but that was not the case….).

So long story short, it often times takes a messy situation to open our eyes to new revelations that we would not have seen otherwise. Mess happens. It’s not meant to be permanent, but I do believe it often serves as the foundation upon which many of  our blessings are formed. If mess didn’t happen we’d never feel the need to assess situations, consider changes and therefore make room for more growth.  So, slowly but surely, I’m still learning. 🙂 And OAN: That, my friends, was the Mess that led to me starting my own professional services. So mess is not a lost cause (and I’m now reminded of the “Paint” post- it’s all about how we choose to view things).

Have a Good Night Y’all!!! 🙂

 

Five Minute Friday: “Glue”

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So here we go: “Glue”

Well, the first thing that comes to mind when I see this word is family. We all have that one person that (of course depending on your family dynamics) is the glue that holds everyone together. It’s all good as long as they’re here, present in this world. It’s all good—we all have that one person that is the reason for family gatherings, that helps to keep the peace. But again, that’s all while they are present.

But when they’re gone… Here’s what I want others to ponder that are in that position. You are the glue that holds your family together.

Please give them something that they can hold on to beyond your existence. Something of value that reminds them that this is what family is all about. Give them something that will bind them together even when you’re not here.

I wonder if families have these type of conversations. Because when the glue is gone… Wow! You’d be surprise[d] [at] how things are handled.

So again, if you are the glue to your family, talk to your family members. Give them nuggets of wisdom about the importance of family and not letting anything come between them, no matter what.

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Five Minute Friday: “Paint”

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So here we go: “Paint”

I’m thinking to myself, it’s going to take me five minutes just to think of something to say and go figure. “What is the picture I want to paint?” My mind is battling between keeping it simple or being all philosophical.

I think – hmmm.  What’s coming to mind is how many of you have probably thought this same question. What is the picture I want to portray? (more along those lines). And I think it’s fair to say that we think on this question too much or become way too analytical and we actually overdo things that only require simplicity.

We try too hard to please people and we end up stressed. We try too hard to maintain a certain image in the public only to break down to pieces behind closed doors.

When teaching Psychology, I asked my students a question. Who would be left if you lost everything you had? Some had never pondered on this before. Some has experienced it before and yet some, unfortunately, did not appreciate the (loss of word here) behind the question.

Sometimes we have to stop, be still and become a blank canvas. And let the Master paint HIS picture!

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The After Five: For a moment there I was thinking there wouldn’t be an “After Five” but yeah right. A couple of more things that came to mind. Whatever picture you paint for your life, not everyone will have the eyes to understand the uniqueness of you!  I think of artists, and I don’t know about your experience but the ones I’ve met have a very “eccentric” personality. What I like about most is that they don’t necessarily see flaws, but instead opportunities. Sometimes the wrong stroke of the brush momentarily pauses their creativity and then a whole new picture comes to fruition that is even better than the original thought.

So where is this leading to? Sometimes we have good ideas and when they don’t pan out as we want, we often times force them to. But if, again, we stop, we may realize that things don’t always pan the way we wish because there’s an even better/greater idea. And because we are all unique in our own ways, not everyone will embrace your portrait, but that’s okay because we can’t all be the same! Love who you are because you HAVE a place in this crazy, mixed up world. And your place is a piece that ties others together.

 

Happy Friday All!!!!

~~ALS Coach Koko~~

 

Five Minute Friday: “Joy”

I’ve been reading WisdomfromaFather’s Friday posts for a while now and thought the idea of Five minute writings was neat. So here I am joining hundreds of others in Five Minute Fridays started by Lisa Jo-Baker. The key is to write for five minutes based on Lisa-Jo’s prompt “No extreme editing; no worrying about perfect grammar, font, or punctuation. Unscripted. Unedited. Real.”

So here we go: “Joy”

Admittedly, when I first looked at this word, I hesitated and actually had to ask myself, what do I feel joy about. I am in unchartered territory and have been for the last year or so, and it has not been all joy. But I’M STILL BLESSED, so how can I not find joy in that? What I can say gives me joy is Teaching. I love to empower others. I spent time with my great-nephews on Wednesday and I showed the oldest one how to cook pork loins, biscuits, and cheese rice. And that is what gives me joy, being able to impart what I’ve learned over the years and share it with others. I find joy in making others feel good about themselves because I know what it’s like to not have someone there to give you encouragement and the praise to push you to the next level.

Simply put, for me joy is simply helping and blessing others. It’s those “light bulb” moments, it’s seeing – being able to experience that moment of realization that “Yes, I can do this.”

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HAPPY FRIDAY ALL!!!

Five Minute Friday: “Willing”

I’ve been reading WisdomfromaFather’s Friday posts for a while now and thought the idea of Five minute writings was neat. So here I am joining hundreds of others in Five Minute Fridays started by Lisa Jo-Baker. The key is to write for five minutes based on Lisa-Jo’s prompt “No extreme editing; no worrying about perfect grammar, font, or punctuation. Unscripted. Unedited. Real.”

So here we go: “Willing”

Ah, great prompt word. Put yourself – dare to think with me for a few minutes:

I want a new car, so therefore I must be willing to sacrifice some things to save money.

I want to succeed in school, therefore I must be willing to make time to study and read my lessons.

I want to be successful in my business, therefore I must be willing to do my research on the do’s and don’ts and what’s best for my niche.

I want to be a better listener, therefore, I must [be willing to] put others before myself.

I want to be a better friend, therefore, I must [be willing to] think less of self.

I want to be more compassionate, therefore I must be willing to be less critical.

I want to be a lot of things, but what am I willing to do, what am I willing to take on (responsibilities), and what am I willing to let go to become that which I wish to be?

I want to be a lot of things, but what am I willing to sacrifice?

I want a better marriage, so what am I willing to do to make it work?

I want to be a good wife, what am I willing to learn in preparation?

I want to be a better supervisor, but what am I willing to let go to better serve those who serve me?

The After Five: So basically this word prompts a lot of questions… we want things, but what are we willing to do to gain them? A lot of times we may ask ourselves these questions and we bounce ideas around, we think of pros and cons, we ponder on the what if’s, and analyze and analyze until we think we’ve come up with the best solution. Not to say that I don’t fall in this category, but can I share that the answers to all these question come with clarity if we would just WILL ourselves to be still before God and wait on his instructions. A lot of the answers to these questions come with clarity if we would just WILL ourselves to be patient. If we would WILL ourselves to just STOP, be still, and be patient, the answers to our questions, the paths we are to take, the manner in which we are to handle people and situations shall be revealed to us.

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…and BLESSINGS!!! Have a Great Weekend!