Five Minute Friday: “Lost”

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So here we go: “Lost”

There was a time in my life when I was lost to the world, lost to myself, lost to the need for attention and affection. There was a time when I was lost to sexual immorality, not truly realizing my worth or even who I was in God.

On a new road of transformation, after being tired of being sick and tired, after being tired of temporary gratifications, that really weren’t gratifying at all, I began to seek solace from the words of Bishop T. D. Jakes (“Naked and Ashamed”) and Joyce Meyers (“Battlefield of the Mind”)….

Once lost in a darkness of filth and just – there’s no other way to describe it, I came to realize my true worth, I came to realize, and BELIEVE that I was a Daughter of the Most High who saw me in a different light and it was my time to see it as well.

Once I found that compass to lead the way, I found myself on a new path, a new belief, a new challenge.


The After Five: That new challenge was to practice abstinence, not just because it was the right thing to do, the safe thing to do, the spiritual thing to do…. Here’s my belief… or philosophy I should say. It takes more than a belief to stay on the right path. Behind that belief should be some type of conviction, some type of purpose or reason that is STRONG enough to remind you when temptation comes why it’s not worth it. I’ve found that, and had to teach myself this as well, you can believe something all day, but without a reason behind it, your reason, (not someone else’s), you are easier to fall prey to your strongholds.

A couple of things that help me to abstain, my reasons:

1. When I meet Mr. Right, I don’t want to be asked that “question” for which my answer would be yesterday, last week, last month or whatever.

2. Until I meet my physical husband, in a way God is my husband and if I’m a believer of fidelity, then this is my test.

3. Not willing to settle anymore for temporary fixes

4. I think about myself as an example to others, what I teach or advise others (acting on that which I ‘preach’)

For me, these reasons are my Strong Convictions.  Yours might be different.

There are many ways to be lost to the world: sex, drugs, possessions… We all know this, we’ve experienced most of them, whether directly or indirectly and have seen the hurt, the pain that is caused, but what many people don’t have is a support system, a reason why, or a way out…

As a coach, one of my desires is to reach those who are Lost, to shed new light, to encourage, empower, and guide. If that person is you and you are feeling bound, wanting to break free, feel free to contact me here (no catch or further obligation).

Another thing I found is with confession, comes freedom, comes PEACE!

Have a Blessed and Safe Weekend All!

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Ezekiel 36:26

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Good morning All!

I was baptized at the age of 12, but I will admit that I got worse instead of better. There was no renewing of the heart and therefore, no change in attitude.  I know better now, but at the time, it was simply another day, dipped in the pool, became a member and everyone got excited. But no one stayed the course to actually teach me what it meant to be under the blood, or how to be one with the Holy Spirit.

That was well over 20 years ago. Many churches have expanded and increased the types of services they offer to those new to Christ nowadays. So hopefully, the right eyes will see this post. It’s not enough to “just” baptize and welcome lost souls as part of the church family now. Respectfully speaking, they are “lost” for a reason. They don’t need us to just grab their hand and tell them the church beliefs and bylaws or how they are expected to serve, they need guidance, which TAKES TIME (more for some than others). I understand the responsibility of Christians (whatever religion) to serve others, to be strong, and to bless even in the midst of our storms, but some lost souls need help in understanding how to receive a new heart (and what that even means), how to accept the new spirit that has been given to them. If all they know is to be stony and stubborn, water alone will not teach them, Sunday morning sermons are not always enough.

Lost souls come to church because they’re missing something. People change churches because they’re missing something. And they are in need of someone to show them, to teach them one-on-one, how to be receptive to God’s spirit, how to discern the voice of God from others, how to be still before God, how to break free of their strongholds.

Maybe you are the one responsible for welcoming new people and getting them connected in the church. Or maybe you are a mentor/coach in the church. If so, please keep the above in mind. Take time to actually walk alongside new people that come in. Even if they are simply changing churches and especially if they’ve been out for a while. Never assume – some people really don’t know how to be more than what they’ve been. And don’t give up along the way, because more times than not, there will be walls to break down before even getting to the root of that person’s void.

This is a beautiful verse that reminds me of hope. But for many who don’t understand, how does one receive this hope. How does one allow the walls to break, how does one become vulnerable without feeling weak? We teach them through the Word and through our actions. We take out the time to minister and not just assume.

 My prayer is that those in leadership positions will not get caught up just in the day-to-day responsibilities attached to certain positions, but will remember the real meaning of ministering to others, that it’s not about money or status. If the people are coming, they are talking, but are we REALLY listening to their cry?

Blessings to all!